There is so much going on in my life at this time.  Being able to write has been cathartic for me.  I have learned some very wonderful lessons over the last few years that I woud never have learned otherwise.  Those rants, are blogged herein and give you a glimpse inside what my life has been like. But there are no regrets.

But, I must do as I teach all of you to do...Take Deep Breaths and move on...I must continue to re-write the script of my own life in order to make lasting change in your black reality.  No healer ever stays in one place on their journey and no true healer tries to teach you lessons they are not willing to learn themselves.

As I teach you on my many other forums,  I will continue to chronicle my own lessons into personal transformation here.  There is always room for change I've learned.

On a recent trip, I met a wonderful young man named Rob.  Rob is a school teacher and is fighting a brave battle with testicular cancer.  Upon boarding the flight, I was all out of sorts as I am when I am rushed.  Sitting next to this blessing in disguise was what I needed.  We talked about everything!  But what I came away with was the fact that those of us who have had adversities in our lives and don't buy into self defeating behaviors are the heroes.  I looked at this wonderful soul and the love he has in his heart and was honored.  However, it would get deeper for me.

As we shared stories, laughed, cried and bonded, I realized I could not continue to allow my own past to rule any part of my present or future.  I decided on the spot to do as I told him to do....live my best life.

After the plane landed, we realized hours had passed!  Then I was shocked, he presented me with a necklace that belonged to his deceased mother and a beautiful book, one that I had wanted for quite some time and let me know how my soul touched his and brought healing to it.  That almost brought me to tears because over the past few years, most of what I heard from people do don't really know me was in the negative.  I realized in that moment, as the ancestors had told me, that I had a lot to give and a great deal of wisdom to impart.  But I had to continue to work on me.

I found my main issue in speaking with Rob was that I allowed others to "spend" me and save themselves.   I knew that could not continue.  Rob passed on a most profound statement, one that I will adopt. He told me of what a friend told him about these destructive relationships "if you can't change the people around you, then change the people around you".  Now that happened to be exactly what I was doing in my own life!  I was cleaning house, evicting those who I had been renting far too much headspace to.  We can't change anyone, but what we can do is change our own circumstance and our friends.

I'm on this path for life, and I hope you desire to do the same, and find all the joy you can stand as you learn to live your BEST LIFE!

Ase